There is something about Dolly Parton that doesn’t strike you at first , we see the over quaffed blonde hair, unmistakable busty features ,hear the accent , and maybe we don’t really expect wisdom .
However whenever I have heard her speak I somehow have a feeling of great comfort from someone who has great understanding and hard earned wisdom. Searching through her bio you don’t unearth scandal and matrimonial strife ( as of yet ) however there is a much publicized growing up with no ‘ money ‘ and a strong matriarchal figure in her mother. Maybe it’s experience enough and maybe in the formative years it created a determination and allowed her to maintain an empathy for those less fortunate . One of her philphanthropic enterprises is the ‘imagination library’ . This a book service which can be accessed for free books and now has a branch in Yorkshire a book per month is sent to each enrolled child from the time of their birth until they enter kindergarten. She is also linked to The America Red Cross and HIV charities. In interviews she speaks of a strong ‘faith’ expressed through daily prayer .
In the world of strife ,chronic pain , and medical no -mans land ( basically no diagnosis explains the pain and discomfort ) then words of wisdom and especially warmth become like stepping stones above a raging river
“The way I see it, if you want the rainbow you gotta put up with the rain.”
“If you don’t like the road you’re walking on start paving another.”
This one is a spinalsolutions favorite it doesn’t suggest ‘ walking another road but PAVE IT! Dolly uses a call to action , new roads are hard won and built with a little graft. Effort and fortitude seem to be an important part of her advice .
“We cannot direct the wind but we can adjust the sails.”
“Storms make trees take deep roots.”
Digging deep in troubled times and getting through builds valuable experience which may solidify relationships, create empathy and enable us to support others who may be experiencing dire times. Additionally pain is really something we can’t avoid it ” physiological’ but how we suffer.? there might be more choice .
“I know who I am; I know what I can and can’t do. I know what I will and won’t do. I know what I am capable of and I don’t agree to do things I don’t that I don’t think I can pull off.”
This is Dolly expressing not just super confidence but also self knowledge , at spinalsolutions this is absolutely a fundamental part of treatment , for recovery in ME/CFS it comes before any of the special techniques we apply. Success cannot be achieved without this ‘self knowledge’ . As Dolly expresses it seems to say also , SELF RESPECT. For me it’s one of those statements that I wish my parents had sat me down and got me to understand before I set out into adulthood.
Finally I will give Dolly the stage and not explain any further one of the great favorites, it might make you think again, if you ever meet Dolly
“I’m not offended about all the dumb blonde jokes, because I know I’m not dumb…and I also know I’m not blonde.”